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HATRED OFTEN WEARS A DISGUISE






HATRED OFTEN WEARS A DISGUISE


When folk say 'let it go', that's hatred to me.

'You're overreacting' is hatred to me.

'Not all ________ ' (fill in the blank) is hatred to me.

'I spoke to my other Black friend and they said different...' is hatred to me.

'I agree with your purpose but not your methods' is hatred to me.

'Explain yourself' is hatred to me.

Attempting to filter our words or hijack our narrative is hatred to me.

'What about my feelings' is hatred to me.

'Hate only breeds hate' is hatred to me.

Your silence until offended is hatred to me.

'On both sides' is hatred to me.

'But what about...' is hatred to me.

'Well, I guess we can't be friends then' is hatred to me.

'You don't know the whole story' is hatred to me.

You saying or writing the N-word is hatred to me.

Complaining about why you can't say it while we can is hatred to me.

Sharing your one bad experience with a Black person is hatred to me.

Talking about Chicago's crime weekend is hatred to me.

You saying disparaging comments about Black celebrities is hatred to me.

Ignoring the racism all around is hatred to me.

Critiquing one tree in our lush forest of reasoning is hatred to me.

Regurgitating racist conservative and liberal narratives is hatred to me.

Insinuating that racism is somehow our fault is hatred to me.

Assuming that you are the expert on all things race is hatred to me.

Always talking about the racist EVIL of the other guy while ignoring your own is hatred to me.

Not apologizing when you realize that you're wrong in your thinking is hatred to me.

Pretending like you were on our side all along is hatred to me.

Pretending like your parents and grandparents were on our side all along is hatred to me.

‘Postracial’ is hatred to me.

Assuming you are more spiritual because you see no evil, hear no evil and speak no evil is hatred to me.

Seeking to demonize us because your world is the illusion is hatred to me.

What is love to me?

Being open to the fact that everything you worked really, really hard for was made that much easier due to the color of your skin.

Questioning the narrative of holding slaveholding presidents in such high esteem.

Saying, 'Sorry for giving you so much grief all those years. Thanks for telling me anyway.'



Calling out your other friends.

Staying humble with your other white friends when you challenge them.

Not assuming that you 'got this' because you know a little bit more than you did before. No-one's 'got this'.

Not backing down at the first name-calling you receive.

Not treating it like you're doing us the favor. It's your life and your soul. Don't live a lie.

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